A Victim No More

The Practice

You may choose to watch the video or follow the directions below.

• Find a pencil with an eraser.
• Draw a triangle and label the points V, P, and R, then set it aside.
• Identify someone you believe has caused you stress or disappointment.
• Describe how you judge this individual and what you want from each other.
• Who is the victim and who is the persecutor? Is there a rescuer who is or should be coming to help?
• Record the names on the triangle you’ve drawn at the V, P, and R points.
• Now try another layout. Move the names around. Ask which scheme is “right.”
• Are you sure?
• Now erase the triangle and the names.
• Does it change the way you feel?
• How does it change your relationships?

Describe your practice and the discoveries you made.